Mary Oliver

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do

with your one wild and precious life?"

Monday, August 14, 2017

Girlfriends, Grief, and Gradually Moving On

Chris loved the beach, so after her service, our group decided to go to her favorite spot, so as to remember her in our own way.  It was a good way to spend a little more time with her and each other. 
Since that day, I've been moving slowly, crying some, and trying to be good to myself by enjoying the quiet, small things. I'm also trying to accept my inertia, or ennui, or what is probably actual grief.  I have less than two weeks before I go back to work, and despite having piles in every room, and things that need doing, I'm spending an awful lot of time doing very little.  I'm sure I'll regret my lack of accomplishment, but for now, it's simply all I can do some days.
 Gracie, has apparently rediscovered the ceiling fan; she was scared of them her first summer, but as I use them in almost every room, she got used to them.  Or at least she had, until they seemed new again, after my two weeks of vacation.
Her sweet heart-shaped face.
My little zinnia section of the flower bed; they are some of my favorite flowers and I never feel as if I've planted enough.  Next year I'm going to seed them in every space I can and see if that will finally satisfy me.
I drove to Richmond yesterday to spend time with Stephanie.  She's been in Arizona, near the Grand Canyon since the middle of June, leading a group of teens in a wilderness/service thing, and I have missed her.  We had brunch, went to a knitting shop, walked across the James River on a suspension bridge, and had coffee and tres leches cake at Kuba, Kuba, one of my favorite RVA restaurants.  It was so good to visit with her.  Not sure where her next destination is, but I don't think she'll be here too long, so had to see her while I had the chance!  She is quite the world traveler.
Thanks to all who read and/or comment here; your kind words really mean a lot to me.  The news seems to bring new heartbreak and fears on a daily basis, and it's hard to comprehend the level of hate that seems to grow exponentially, but we cannot let hate win.  Keep the faith.  Peace to us all.


  1. So glad to hear you had such a nice visit with a friend. I've been "watching this space" since your last post and it's good to hear from you. I absolutely love the pic of Gracie looking up at the ceiling fan! My one-year-old grandson was a little afraid of ours at first but now it's the first thing he checks on when he comes in the house. We call it his "fan friend" :P

    1. Thank you; it's been a tough time for many reasons, but I'll be ok, as we always are. Going back to school will be good for me.

  2. Good to hear from you again Rose. Take it easy and be kind to yourself - it's important! Enjoy your last two weeks of summer before you go back to school. That routine may be good for you, but savor these last two weeks.

    As always, I love the sweet pictures of Gracie. so cute.

  3. Sending hugs. You've a had a few losses in the last year or so.
    Gracie is just adorable!
    I have not accomplished half of what I hoped. I'd rather knit. Or embroider. Or sew. Or...

  4. And suddenly...back to school! You may find a return to routine comforting after this summer. I hope so.

    1. I agree. And this mess in Charlottesville is awful. πŸ’”

  5. Be kind and easy with yourself Rose. There is no right way to grieve. You can catch up on piles later, for now do what feels right for you.